Are you still not convinced that it’s your thoughts that cause your feelings? Here is an exercise that you can do to help you see the linkage.
As you go about your daily life you will notice feeling cropping up all the time.
- Are you feeling good or bad?
- What are your thoughts at the moment when you are feeling good or bad?
This example depicts both a positive and negative scenario. Take a moment and try this first exercise:
Now that we have experimented with a positive scenario, let’s look at a negative one to demonstrate the difference
While you’ve examined yourself as you’ve conducted these exercises for both the positive and negative scenarios, did you notice a difference in your feelings? When you examined your own thoughts, did you notice a difference in your thoughts?
Most likely you noticed positive feelings and thoughts in the scenario where you were picturing a place you would like to travel to and negative emotions and thoughts in the scenario where you were picturing a place that you would not like to travel to.
Truth be told, not every thought will cause an emotion. In order for a thought to cause an emotion, it MUST be a thought that you believe to be true. Look back at your thoughts in the previous exercise. Where these thoughts all true facts about that scenario? Did you believe these thoughts?
Once you see the link between thoughts/beliefs and emotions/feelings, you can then see a way out of feeling badly. It is now possible to change your feelings by changing your thought/beliefs. How does one do that? Have a look at the exercises laid out on this website and you can start your path to feeling better.